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Be In Charge of Your Own Life

Be in charge of your own life! It sounds simple, but is it, and what does it mean?

There was a time in my life that I was driven by what I believed I was supposed to do, and how I was supposed to act. I believed what I was told by “authorities”, about what was good for me and what was not. As a young Airman, I had adjust to taking orders and following directions. Initially, this worked as I was navigating the waters of my career and in my life, but over time I learned that if I wanted to be promoted, or be considered for a new role, or change a circumstance in my relationships or improve my health and fitness goals, I had to act like a CEO.

I am sure you know what I mean when I say, I cared what others thought of me, and I tried to fit in and to be accepted by the crowd. I wanted to please and to be acknowledged by others, and I lost my power in doing so. Now, during this season of my life, I understand more clearly on my purpose and on my mission. I’m taking charge of my life more than ever and I’m excited in this new journey I’m creating.

What does it mean to be in charge of your own life?

In one sentence, it means that you are being true to yourself and your life purpose. It also means that you are taking charge of everything about your life, and that there never was or is anyone but yourself to blame for anything that you experience. It means that no matter what you are living right now, you know it is up to you to change it. It is always up to you.

Taking charge of ones life is the single most important shift of perception towards living a life free of suffering and despair. Yes, a shift of perception. Giving away ones power is about the mindset. Every time we feel disempowered, we have given away our power. That means that every time you feel frustrated or angry about something that anyone else said or did, you have given away your power. What others say or do, has nothing to do with you. You hold the key to your own emotions. You are the SLAY boss of your inner terrain, physically, mentally and emotionally. Everything you do, say, think or feel is 100% your own responsibility. Now THAT is true freedom!

Taking charge also means taking full responsibility. We have been led to believe that others are responsible, and that they know better. We have been taken off the job as the one who knows what is best for us, and we are disconnected from our inner knowing.

Think of it this way, if you are the one that knows what is best for you, and no one else could ever be to blame for anything that you experience, wouldn`t you like yourself to be in charge? I would most certainly like to be the one that was on top of my game, if I was the one living my life.

So what are the signs that you are in charge of your life:

You know that it is you that has to change, to change anything in your life.

Your health becomes your own responsibility.

Educating yourself and thinking for yourself becomes a priority.

Being true to yourself first becomes natural.

You make choices based on your own inner guidance and research.

What other people think is no longer important.

You have a strong sense of who you are and where you are going.

Fear is no longer the driving force in your life.

You are taking action towards your goals.

You have no need to follow anyone, blame anyone or point fingers at anyone.

Being the SLAY boss of your own life, feels like true freedom.

You never feel like a victim.

You realize how amazing you are just being YOU.

Life is so much better when you KNOW that you are the one in charge of your life.

A few tips on how to take charge of your life:

1. Make a choice. Decide that you are the SLAY boss of your life, and that only you can do what it needed to live the life you desire and deserve. Once you make a decision, stay with it, and keep your focus. Give yourself time, and realize that everything is going to be okay.

2. Be the authority. We are so used to listening to others, so hearing our own voice can be hard. Let go of needing everybody`s opinion and validation, and listen more to YOU. This does not mean that you will not need advice and guidance, but never give the power away, and always follow your own intuition. M