All week I’ve been here in Indiana helping my mom move out of the family home of over 40 years to a BRAND NEW home in a 55+-year-old community.
Lesson 1: It’s never too late to live out your dreams…my mom and dad were looking to buy a new home (my mom was looking more than my dad was😂) before he passed away and after a year my mom decided to downsize and move into a new home. She’s extremely happy and excited about moving forward in her life.
Lesson 2: Not all relationships stay the same after the death of a loved one. In fact, some get worse than they were before…some of my close relationships have dissolved because I’m perceived to be a threat to their livelihood. I can’t control how people feel about me or what happens in the future, but I will protect my energy, my mental health, and my happiness at all costs.
Lesson 3: If you are the oldest child in your family, you don’t have to feel responsible for everyone and everything, especially if you’re dealing with other grown people…Sometimes I feel guilty for going into the military and making something of my life and other people make me feel guilty for it too. When you are away from home for long periods of time, people, places, and relationships change. Don’t feel like you have to be the same person or fit into the role you left behind.
Lesson 4: Take care of yourself first and foremost. Before I did anything, I worked out and I made sure to get some time alone to myself throughout the day. Between the move, running around doing errands, and making phone calls, I needed to reset and renew my mind. There were a few times when I was on a verge of a nervous breakdown, but I reached out to my “lifelines” and took lots of deep breaths.
Lesson 5: It’s ALWAYS cold here in Indiana in the month of January. ALWAYS🥶so if you don’t like cold like me you have to bundle up out here!!!
Keep on SLAYin’ until you can’t SLAY no more🔥
Rochelle “SLAY Queen” Hemingway
CEO, SLAY To Success, LLC
Speaker | Author | Coach | USAF Veteran